Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before a fall.
We are living in an age where pride reigns. We have been deceived into thinking we are better than we really are, and this pride keeps us from growing and learning, and sometimes even getting along with others. With all the talk about “mental illness” today, I would have to say pride is the MAIN mental illness humans suffer from today.
Pride keeps us from apologizing. Pride creates unnecessary battles. Pride causes angst in relationships and makes one appear as a complete jerk sometimes. Pride DESTROYS – plain and simply.
A father’s pride can destroy his children. A husband’s pride can destroy his marriage. A boyfriend’s pride can destroy his potential marriage. A leaders pride can destroy a nation. I mention men here because it is mostly men with this problem, but that’s not to say some women aren’t guilty of this as well.
When someone has a drinking problem, they become an alcoholic. Oftentimes an alcoholic cannot admit he’s an alcoholic because his pride tells him “I can’t be that bad.”
When someone is a porn addict, they cannot admit it because their pride tells them “I can’t be that bad.”
When someone is a drug addict, they cannot admit it because their pride tells them “I can’t be that bad.”
When someone has any addiction – no matter what the reason, their pride inhibits them from breaking from that addiction because in their mind, they just simply can’t be “that bad.”
Even when it comes to accepting Christ – pride keeps most people from doing that. People today don’t want to admit that they are sinful…..they can’t “be that bad.” This pride keeps them from accepting the only thing that can give them eternal salvation.
Everywhere you look in the world – you see it, you experience it, and it’s in every bad situation. Every situation that causes strife, hurt, anger, and more is all wrapped around PRIDE. This is why I say Pride is the ONLY deadly sin.
By pride comes nothing but strife, But with the well-advised is wisdom.
Pride keeps us in denial of ourselves, of our weaknesses, of our personal accountability. It’s the most prominent disease of the modern day human mind.
I’m even betting some people will stop reading this blog because their mind tells them “I’m not prideful.”….”I can’t be THAT bad. This has nothing to do with me.”
Humility is the remedy to this illness. How does one gain humility? Well I can tell you first hand, it’s not easy; it takes strength, stamina, and a constant awareness of our disease. And just like the steps that have to be taken by an alcoholic to get rid of their “disease”, humility is gained the same way.
So do this, my son, and deliver yourself; For you have come into the hand of your friend: Go and humble yourself; Plead with your friend.
THE TWELVE STEPS TO HUMILITY
Step 1: Honesty
After many years of denial, recovery can begin when with one simple admission of being powerless over pride — for the prideful themselves and their friends and family.
Step 2: Faith
It seems to be a spiritual truth, that before a higher power can begin to operate, you must first believe that it can. Believing that getting rid of your pride is not in your own power, but in the power of your creator, is one of the most helpful steps in this process. Give it over to the Lord and watch Him work.
Step 3: Surrender
A lifetime of selfish fleshly desire self-satisfaction can come to a screeching halt, and change forever, by making a simple decision to turn it all over to a higher power.
Step 4: Soul Searching
There is a saying in the 12-step programs that recovery is a process, not an event. The same can be said for this step — more will surely be revealed. Take a good long hard look in your mirror every single day and strip away the lies you’ve told yourself. See the REAL you and tap into your REAL emotions.
Step 5: Integrity
Probably the most difficult of all the steps to face, Step 5 is also the one that provides the greatest opportunity for growth. People respect integrity and sadly many lack it today. Stop lying to yourself and others, and let this step start working for you.
Step 6: Acceptance
The key to Step 6 is acceptance — accepting character defects exactly as they are and becoming entirely willing to let them go. I think this should be step one honestly. One has to admit they are a prideful person before they can let it go and start working on it.
It was pride that changed angels into devils; it is humility that makes men as angels.
Step 7: Humility
The spiritual focus of Step 7 is humility, asking a higher power to do something that cannot be done by self-will or mere determination. And when you trust in that higher power, it takes more weight off your shoulders and helps you start rebuilding the person God intended you to be originally.
Step 8: Willingness
Making a list of those harmed before coming into recovery may sound simple. Becoming willing to actually make those amends is the difficult part. There’s nothing harder than admitting to someone your flaws, but once you start doing it, it becomes something like riding a bike. Admit to those closest to you (including Jesus) that you are a stubborn, prideful fool, and watch your relationship with Him and those around you grow.
Step 9: Forgiveness
Making amends may seem like a bitter pill to swallow, but for those serious about recovery it can be great medicine for the spirit and soul. Ask for forgiveness, and learn to give it, to yourself, and those your pride may have hurt.
Step 10: Maintenance
Nobody likes to admit to being wrong. But it is absolutely necessary to maintain spiritual progress in recovery. You must maintain this spirit of humility and that has to be done by constant re-examination of self, and stopping yourself from acting or speaking from your pride.
Step 11: Making Contact
The purpose of Step 11 is to discover the plan God has for your life. Humble yourself before Him, and seek HIS will for your life, and not your own. Giving up all self to Him is key in humility and recovery from Pride.
Step 12: Service
For those in recovery programs, practicing Step 12 is simply “how it works.” Start serving others before yourself. This removes selfish pride. This step helps you understand others, how they perceive you, and has blessings beyond understanding.
All humor aside from what may appear to be a mock recovery program, this stuff works. We are required to be humble as Christians, and it’s never an easy way to be. We are all sinful in this aspect of life – pride. But the sooner we can admit it and recognize it, the sooner we can recover from it.
Let go of yourself and let God. Start asking “What would Jesus do” in EVERY scenario of your life and it will assist you in your recovery.
If you have yet to accept Jesus as your Savior because your pride has held you back, say something like this prayer:
Lord Jesus, I am a sinner. I know you died on the cross to atone for my sins with the blood you shed on the cross. I believe you rose again and I now want to give my life to you. I’m tired of being selfish and prideful and now ask you to come into my heart and lead me to Your will, not my own. Please forgive me and lead me Lord. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.
You can modify this prayer to however you feel more comfortable and what fits your life. Sometimes asking for forgiveness of all the sins that have weighing heavy on your shoulders for too long is helpful; List them off to the Lord. Cry if you need to….but let go and let God. Don’t be prideful anymore. Start having fulfilling happy relationships in your life. It works every time.
Then he said to me, “Do not fear, Daniel, for from the first day that you set your heart to understand, and to humble yourself before your God, your words were heard; and I have come because of your words.
Peace to you all, today and every day.