MY EXPERIENCE LAST NIGHT
I had quite a situation on my hands last night. As many of you know, I home-school my 13 year old daughter, and in our neighborhood she has several friends that go to public school. My daughter also spends time online with others that she meets through sites, games, etc. I had a feeling this situation was going to arise…I could just sense it coming. I know her local friends pretty well and one in particular I just had a feeling that something was coming.
I was right. I was having a conversation sitting outside with my daughter and a few of her friends yesterday. The one friend I had sensed something was coming from decided to bare her soul to me and tell me she is “pansexual”. Never having heard this term before, she explained to me that it’s not based on any gender thing, that it’s based entirely on personality. In other words, it doesn’t matter what sex a person is, if there is love between the personalities, gender doesn’t matter. It was clear she learned this term in school.
She then coerced my daughter to tell me “something”…and my 13 year old then informs me she’s “bisexual”. During this “revealing” to me, my daughter’s friend asks me “How could God call something a sin when He makes people born this way?” Oh Lord, here we go.
I’m having issues with my blood pressure and as a Christian mom this was the last thing I needed to hear.
I knew this was coming from her friend eventually. I could tell by the way she dresses; by the way she cares for herself. Let’s just say she’s not a “girly girl”. She COULD be. My daughter has been following suit with this friend and another who tends to like looking like a boy; short haircuts, black baggy clothes, etc. All 3 of them have been screaming “I am a rebel” in the ways they present themselves.
My daughter’s friend suddenly had to leave to go eat dinner but I made her promise me she’d come back so I could answer her question about God and “being born that way”.
THE GROWING PROBLEM OF CONFUSION
These are 13 year old girls. After having a discussion with them later in the evening, they confirmed they don’t even THINK about having “sex” with people. As we all know, most girls don’t gain real interest in the actual act for a few years yet. When I spoke to my daughter privately about this matter, I asked her WHY she felt she was bisexual. She informed me that it was because she was “crushing” on a girl she had met online; that she felt as though she wanted to be in a relationship with this girl as she would a boy. I had to explain to her that we can love those of the same sex, but it doesn’t mean we are gay in any way…especially since she confirmed that she had no sexual desires towards this girl whatsoever. (Thankfully the “relationship” between these two ended. We know as parents it would have never gone anywhere to begin with.)
If these kids aren’t even considering sex at all yet, why are they labeling themselves with terms like this to define their sexuality, and at such a young age? I find this absolutely absurd and ridiculous, and I know EXACTLY where this garbage is coming from.
This indoctrination is coming from TV…..Disney Channel, movies, cartoons, etc. It’s coming from music. It’s coming from the public schools and their liberal teachers. Why don’t people understand that this would have been like teachers in our generation handing us a buffet of drugs on a silver platter to choose from? That was the “sin” of our time – the 80’s…but teachers weren’t promoting that. Frankly, they were doing the opposite with the “Just say NO” campaigns, etc. Why are they promoting this new sin/immorality fad of questionable sexuality to our children? Why are they ALLOWED to? These kids get mixed messages: “don’t have sex, but OK, think about your sexuality – are you attracted to girls? Boys? Or both? Do you want to be a boy or girl, because it’s OK if you want to be what you’re not?” Is it no wonder so much of our youth are “experimenting” with so many different partners of both sexes?
I don’t have to tell you the dangers of this…the diseases. And then of course with the confusion more than likely comes drug use, rape, etc. It’s a vicious cycle.
My friend in Kentucky told me there are SO MANY gay kids at her daughter’s high school that she would have to go to another town to find a decent boy to date. Welcome to Pandora’s Box; the one the liberals have wanted to open for decades. The one they opened with the huge help of Ellen DeGeneres in the 90’s. They’ve finally succeeded. They (the entire 4% of gays in the nation) are celebrating this, while most of the rest of the nation is cringing, gagging, disgusted, and trying to find a way to cope with it all. I don’t have homophobia; I’m not fearful of homosexuality. I LOATHE it; I loathe the immorality that’s being shoved down all our throats, and our children’s throats on a constant daily basis.
We NEVER had to think about this stuff the way kids do today. We just knew that boys and girls dated (the opposite sex), went out, made out, and that’s just how it worked. Kids today are dealing with a whole gamut of “choices” and temptations, and it’s horrifying for me as a mom who loves her children dearly and wants them to know the love of Christ more than anything.
“Experimenting” in my generations’ day was with drugs. It seems every generation is being taunted by Satan to “pick your poison”, and he is using every tool possible to tempt our kids.
WHO USUALLY ENDS UP GAY?
I’ve found those that are most confused about their sexuality are those that have a low self-image – for whatever reason. Just these 2 examples alone repeat the ongoing pattern of those who most often end up “gay”.
My daughter’s friend who declared she was a “pansexual”??? Her mother died when she was 4 years from a blood clot, her father has anger management and drinking issues, and she has a step mother who is less than loving towards her with 2 half-sisters. You can see and feel the pain in this girl’s young life.
My daughter is a tad bit overweight, and has a low self-image for various reasons…despite my efforts to help her feel confident in herself. We too have a broken family and her father’s house is far different than ours. His life is now far different than ours here and she visits him every other weekend. Not to mention, in the past 2 years she has had to endure the death of my mother, and her 22 year old sister (her father’s older daughter). I don’t know if she will end up bi, my thought is not. She has always been attracted to boys. I believe this is a passing fad for her…she so desperately wants to fit in with those around her. She struggles with following Jesus, versus following the world. All I can do is guide her, lead her, and pray for her continually at this point.
THE STRUGGLE IS REAL
As Christian parents, we now have to battle the entire world it seems to save our children. We fight against the internet, the media (in all forms), peer pressure, the school systems, etc. It’s wearisome trying to shield our children from this…and frankly, I got a slap in the face yesterday that I simply cannot shield her from this junk. This has gotten far too big, far too popular, far too cumbersome. But I will keep on keepin’ on, sharing truth with her and her friends, and praying for them. If you have children, or grandchildren, I would suggest doing the same. It’s getting rough for us followers of Christ guys…in so many ways.
Trust in Him, and understand we simply cannot control the world…but He is most certainly in control. It’s getting close to that time where we will have nothing left BUT our faith to lean on. Amen?
Peace to you all, today and every day.