I was watching Dr. Phil yesterday and he had on a program about what some may deem today as “extreme” or “radical” discipline for children. Truthfully, this type of discipline was very common up until about 30 years ago – before we were all told spanking was a form of child abuse. How far our society has sunk since then!
But back to Dr. Phil – one man forced his bullying child walk to school (a total of 5 miles over 3 days) because he was kicked off the bus for bullying. Another forced his child to run a mile in the rain to school for similar behavior.
Discipline teaches children EMPATHY; a very necessary and moral trait we all should have.
So often on Dr. Phil (I always watch Dr. Phil) – we see very troubled older teens and beyond who are doing drugs, drinking, getting into legal trouble and more. The culprit usually ALWAYS seems to stem from bad parenting – parents that coddled and spoiled their children. Parents who were inconsistent and lacked disciplining them.
I’ve been a pretty tough mom. My oldest will most certainly attest to that. I have always tried to teach my kids about respecting others, especially their elders.
My daughter will tell you I “have a mom look that kills the pink bunnies in her head”. We laugh about that today 🙂
Being within a broken family – when my daughter had troubles with a step-parent – even if I didn’t care at all for that step-parent – I would tell her to be respectful and understand why something she didn’t like was happening. She always knew she could come to me.
I didn’t have a ton of control over certain things my daughter did, but she learned very early on to have a reverent fear for authority figures. It’s what I was taught, and it’s what I wanted her to also know. She is a respectful woman at 27 and I couldn’t be more proud of her compassion and empathy for others.
The bible says we are to discipline our children, swiftly. I’m not talking ABUSE, I’m talking DISCIPLINE. (“: training that corrects, molds, or perfects the mental faculties or moral character”.)
– spanking, work, removing a beloved toy/electronic – always followed up with a discussion with child about WHY they were being disciplined and if they understand it.
There are many verses in scripture regarding this.
Proverbs 13:24He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him promptly.
11 Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
Proverbs 23: 13 Do not withhold correction from a child, For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die.
14 You shall beat him with a rod, And deliver his soul from hell.
Ephesians 6:4 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.
Proverbs 29: 15 The rod and rebuke give wisdom,
But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.
Proverbs 12:1 Whoever loves instruction loves knowledge,
But he who hates correction is stupid.
There are many more but you get the idea.
Many psychologists – mostly left leaning – are against spanking and disciplining your child. Of course – these are the same people who vote for the murdering of children in the womb, but I digress.
Let me say something to you – if you don’t discipline your child when they do something wrong or immoral – there’s eventually going to be a judge out there who will.
Even as adults – we are told in scripture “the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom”.
Fear can be a scared frightened fear, or it can be a reverent fear. A respectful fear. The respectful fear is what the Lord wants from us – understanding He can remove the very breath from us with His power if He wishes. He wants us to understand the incredible power He has – over our lives, over our eternities.
Discipline creates that level of reverent fear in a child.
I think we all need a level of fear in us because a reverent fear humbles us. I’ve seen some teens and 20 somethings these days without a shred of fear in them and let me tell you, those kids are one day going to have a very rude awakening by someone who has power over them; whether it be an employer, a police officer, a judge, or a prison guard or warden. And of course, eventually – God Himself.
The Lord wants us to be humble. He wants us to serve one another….not walk around all full of ourselves, shooting off our mouths to everyone we disagree with, being rude and disrespectful and hateful. He doesn’t want us doing things to harm ourselves or hinder a walk with Him.
The final 2 commandments given by Jesus are 1 – to love God with your entire being and 2 – to love one another as we love ourselves.
Without a level of discipline, we cannot do either.
How will YOU parent your child? In Christ – or according to liberal ideologies – believing that spanking or disciplining your child is a form of abuse? Are you going to be your child’s friend? Or fulfill the role we are given to prepare them for the world.
The world is a rough place to be in.
Tough love….. God loves us as such….we should love our children in same manner.